Dysfunctional Families are still Fully Functional Hearts

An 1845 protrait of Queen Victoria and Prince Albert with the family of King Louis Philippe at the Chateau by Franz Xaver Winterhalter (Wikipedia)


Today, I was surprised to have edited some of my former posts in wordpress.com, and discovered many good prospects for friends in facebook and twitter. The primary one was a young man that I had actually met when he was two years old. I immediately requested his friendship, and lo-and-behold, he accepted it, giving me access to his wonderful wall.

I met the little chap at a cousin party for the last Easter that I went to California in 1984, and I was more pleased to see his parents. (Can you relate with such events?) Let’s see, I had just turned 34, his present age is 45, so he was 4. I know his family was there, because they brought the wine. He has grown up to resemble the prince shown in the above royal family.


I have to write this because I confess I failed to keep up with his royal family by not writing, emailing, or sending cards – which I could have . . . but just didn’t. Also recently, I have befriended another handsome young man whom I also met at the same party, another second cousin once removed.

He recently married very well and I have seen his 2014 thrilling gallery.

I happened to be the senior member of my generation, but my generation is not that active on facebook. Now it falls to the next generation; and they are doing so well on facebook, that I feel a glimmer of hope, there could be a future reunion (prospects for dysfunctional hearts to return to functional hearts).


My children are pretty evenly divided. Half have friended me, and half have blocked me. And I feel I have to suppose that they are right and that I deserve it. I was such a failure as their father. My father is not to blame. He was a prince of a man. I followed him into youth activities as Boy Scouts, but my rebellion despite his support; and my choice was not to become an Eagle Scout.

Such childish choice led me to wrong career choices and when a family came along following combat duty, I fit into a new culture that was not that fulfilling. College incomplete, I returned to military duty, only to find that personal choices dragged me down to lose a good wife with all four wonderful kids.

So, you may agree, I don’t deserve a royal functional family. It’s true. I had to leave small children with the oldest of twelve. Many friends told me that I could have never said anything about my overseas infidelity, but I had to fess up . . . such honesty flies in the face of any relationship. Divorse was devastating.

I made every effort to get my life back with help from friends. I made full confession to God and found his forgiveness and returned to feeling a worthy person again. So, I am reacquainted with the one Person who does deserve the worship of a functional heart: Our Lord (Adonai) Jesus Christ (Yeshua Messiah).


Now, our children from both marriages are long gone from their mothers, and have darling children of their own – their mother raised them well . . . with the help of friends as well. Prayer is welcome.

The last verse of the Jewish (Old) Covenant in the book of Mal’akhi (Malachi) chapter 3 verses 23 and 24 (or Chapter 4, verses 5 and 6 in Christian Old Testament) tells us of future hope in this regard:

“Look, I will send to you Eliyahu (Elijah) the prophet before the great and terrible day of Adonai (my Lord). He will turn the hearts of the fathers to the children and the hearts of the children to their fathers; otherwise I will come and strike the land with complete destruction.”

Have you seen this text? It is located just before Tehillim (Psalms) in the Complete Jewish Bible (CJB) or at the very end of the Old Covenant in the Standard English Version (SEV). The point of hope is that it is both a threat and a promise. You see, only God knows our hearts, so only He is able to judge us correctly. And that means we have no right to judge each other.


To conclude tonight, I want to remind my cousins just how thankful I am for their friendship on facebook. Their generation is now the heirs of the land. And land is what a prince most values, as it is just his family of kings and queens or prince and princesses that have taught him to be faithful. And they have prospered.

The problem of dysfunction in a royal family is resolved by the true words of children’s Bible stories . . . “And they all lived happily ever after.” (The Bible says everyone, every soul, lives forever, but every soul must choose where they desire to live, heaven or hell, life or death. The choice is still our own to make.)

May the Lord bless and keep you;